Healthy boundaries are essential for our mental and emotional well-being. They help us protect ourselves from harm, set limits on our time and energy, and maintain our sense of self. In this blog post, I share 5 things I’ve learned about installing healthy boundaries from my own experience and through my clients’.
Recovering from being a fluffy overachieving people pleaser led me have to reassess my relationships and reassert my boundaries.
Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on how you frame it) a lot of relationships had to go. Once I realised there was an unhealthy power dynamic in the relationships (I had low self esteem, they took advantage of that and I gave my power away), the game was up so to speak and I couldn’t ignore how unhealthy the dynamic was. I felt a lot of love for these people (even though with some I felt totally relieved to walk away from) so there was a grieving process involved.
Despite this, I still felt the benefit for placing healthy boundaries, and I love these people from a distance.
What are healthy boundaries?
Healthy boundaries are like the personal safety nets we put in place to take care of ourselves. They’re the lines we draw to protect our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. By setting these boundaries, we show ourselves respect and prioritize self-care. They also play a crucial role in fostering healthy relationships with others.
We have a choice: either we set our personal boundaries or we let others set them for us.
Why are healthy boundaries important?
If we have poor boundaries and we’re letting other people set them for us, then we’re really not in the driving seat of our lives. In fact, when I had poor boundaries, I had a recurring dream where I was in my car, but I was on the back seat and no one was sitting in the driving seat. When I dissected the dream I realised what my subconscious was trying to show me, and I took action steps to get back in the driving seat of my own life.
5 things I’ve learned about installing healthy boundaries
1. When your mindset shifts your energy shifts and many people naturally fall away
When you make positive changes in your mindset, something remarkable happens – your energy begins to shift. As you align your thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives with a more positive and empowering outlook, you’ll notice a natural shift occurring around you.
It’s a beautiful process of growth and self-discovery. Some people, who no longer resonate with your elevated energy and mindset, may naturally drift away. They might be those who were holding you back or bringing negativity into your life.
Embrace this natural phenomenon as a sign of personal progress and growth. As you continue to evolve, you’ll attract new connections and opportunities that align with your elevated energy. Surround yourself with those who uplift and support you on your journey to a more fulfilling and joyful life.
Remember, your mindset is a powerful force that shapes your reality. Embrace the shifts, embrace the energy, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never imagined possible.
2. Sometimes it takes time to adjust
Navigating the complexities of shifting dynamics in relationships can be a tender and sometimes challenging process. When you start speaking your truth and expressing your boundaries to certain individuals, it can initiate a push-pull dynamic as they adjust to the change in you.
For both parties involved, this transition can be an emotional journey. Particularly if you’re energy-sensitive, you might feel the energetic bond between you pulling and pushing, causing sensations in your solar plexus or heart. It’s as if you’re being pulled in different directions, or your core feels tugged.
This process requires patience and compassion. Remember, it’s natural for people to resist change initially, even if it’s for their own growth. Allow space for both yourself and others to adjust and find their footing in this new dynamic.
While it may be uncomfortable or even painful at times, honouring your truth and setting boundaries is essential for your well-being. Take care of yourself during this period of adjustment, ensuring you practice self-care, grounding techniques, and seek support when needed.
Ultimately, as you honour your boundaries and stay true to yourself, the relationships that align with your newfound authenticity will flourish. Trust that those who are meant to remain in your life will adjust and grow alongside you.
3. Sometimes it’s got to be a hard NO
Sometimes, you encounter individuals whose energy feels overwhelmingly pervasive, leaving you with no choice but to establish a firm and unwavering boundary—a hard NO. These are the people whose presence drains your vitality, disrupts your peace, and inhibits your personal growth.
Recognising the need for a hard NO is an act of self-preservation. It’s an acknowledgment that their pervasive energy is detrimental to your well-being. By setting this clear boundary, you reclaim your power and protect your inner harmony.
While saying no can be difficult, especially when dealing with persistent or demanding individuals, it is crucial for your own mental and emotional health. Trust your intuition and prioritize your needs. You have the right to safeguard your energy and create a space free from negativity and toxicity.
Remember, establishing a hard NO doesn’t make you unkind or uncaring. It’s an act of self-love and self-respect. Surround yourself with those who uplift and support you, fostering an environment that nurtures your growth and happiness.
Release any guilt or doubt you may feel, and embrace the freedom that comes from asserting your boundaries. Your well-being is invaluable, and it’s worth protecting at all costs.
4. Visualising healthy boundaries is key
Visualising your boundaries in a state of deep relaxation and heightened receptivity allows you to create a vivid mental image of your desired boundaries and the positive impact they have on your life. Through this process, you can reprogram your subconscious beliefs, replacing any limiting thoughts or patterns with empowering and affirming ones.
In the realm of hypnosis, your mind becomes highly receptive to suggestion, making it an ideal state for implementing lasting change. By engaging your subconscious mind in this process, you can effectively shift your mindset, boost your confidence, and establish a solid foundation of healthy boundaries.
The experience of visualising your boundaries in a hypnotic state is truly awe-inspiring. It enables you to tap into your inner wisdom, unlock your potential, and create a new reality that aligns with your true self. It’s a powerful journey of self-discovery and self-empowerment.
5. The importance of energy clearing practices
Clearing dense energy in your field is essential for maintaining healthy boundaries. Incorporating regular energy clearing practices into your routine can make a remarkable difference in your overall well-being. Here are some powerful techniques to consider:
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Immerse Yourself in Nature to cleanse and rejuvenate your energy.
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Embrace the Cleansing Power of Water: Take salt baths or immerse yourself in the sea to wash away negative energies and transmute stagnant energy in your auric field.
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Burning incense, such as copal or palo santo, cleanses the energy in your aura and environment.
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Embodied Meditation for Release: Engage in embodied meditation practices where you focus on your physical sensations. Tune into areas of your body where emotional pain or tension is. Allow yourself to fully feel and acknowledge these sensations as they signify the release and healing of stored energy.
By incorporating these practices into your self-care routine, you create a harmonious energetic environment within yourself and your surroundings. As you clear away stagnant or negative energies, you make space for positive, vibrant energy to flow freely. This supports your journey of maintaining healthy boundaries and fostering overall well-being.
Remember, you hold the power to your own energy, own it.
Healthy boundaries are essential for our mental and emotional well-being.
Your energy is your energy – not anyone else’s. Make sure you are holding your own power in your body. Embrace practicing healthy boundaries, and watch as your experience changes with yourself, others, and the world around you.
By setting healthy boundaries, we can protect ourselves from harm, set limits on our time and energy, and maintain our sense of self.
Do you want to install healthy boundaries?
If you have nagging feelings of anxiety, depression and low self esteem, if you find yourself being taken advantage of by others or feel exhausted or drained after seeing someone, or getting resentful, angry or frustrated with people then you probably have unhealthy boundaries – and I’d love to work with you to help you get the benefits of installing healthy boundaries, so you can feel more confident, have more self esteem, with strong healthy boundaries, clearly expressing your needs.
My Metamorphosis program is a great way to transform your life through upgrading your beliefs, removing blocks and manifesting your goals. Whether you know what you want to do and need help removing the blocks that are in your way so that you can finally take action or you need help discovering what makes your heart and soul light up, this program is for you.
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